Dateable

I am reading this book called Dateable: Are you? Are they? by Justin Lookadoo and Hayley Morgan and it is really good...REALLY good. I have not finished it but no more than I have read I would advise anyone to read this no matter if you are in a relationship, about to be, or completely single. It has some serious stuff that could help save people a lot of heartache. So this brings me to this post. I have been in some relationships before and who knows how many I will or will not be in later down the road. So I am starting over starting with this...this is proof.

This book is all about relationships and starts off by talking about how to approach your relationships. The first thing is that you should look at each relationship as if it IS going to end eventually...until you get to the years where marriage is a serious possibility then things change. That way you can appreciate your time with that person and yet not devote your whole life to it. The point is by realizing that and acting accordingly each person can succeed and live with excitement and passion (not romantic passion, but a passion for life). I am gonna start by answering some questions about the relationships I will have in the future.

How do I want to be remembered? When he thinks of me I want him to remember me as a great girlfriend. I want him to know that I am precious and valuable. When it ends, he will not know everything about me. He will not have seen or experienced all that I am. He will leave wanting more.

How will I act to get him to feel that way? I am going to be mysterious. I am going to pace my secret sharing. I am not going to give in sexually. He will not just come in and get what he wants from me. I will protect myself so there will be so much of me he hasn't seen., doesn't know, and hasn't touched. I am going to be cool, fun, and exciting. I will keep doing stuff with my friends. I will try new things. I will not be timid, but I will be confident in who I am. I will most importantly remain true to God and myself.

In closing, I have made lots of mistakes in life in general and with relationships, but I am going at it in a totally different way this time. It will take time and I am going to have to completely trust God, but that's how it should be and as the book says, "The great romancer wants to romance you. He wants to show you the sunsets and give you the falling stars. He wants to give you your dreams, your desires, your destiny." I want to keep my focus on the right person and HIS plan for my life.

When it Rains it Pours

You have heard the saying when it rains it pours and after the past few days I definitely agree with it. We were on our way to visit some family in Florida and our van (my family has a big conversion van) was making some strange pop noise every so often. Well we are on our way, have just gotten gas from a place and are pulling out where there is a very loud pop noise and a terrible squealing sound that followed it. So we pull over since the van would no longer run over 20 mph and decide it is the transmission that has come out.

No fear though we are AAA Gold members so we call them up...but the thing is not only is our van huge but we have a trailer attached as well. So the people say they will come and get us but they wanted to charge us $350 to haul our trailer (which is almost more than we had paid for the trailer to start with!) and the wrecker can only hold two people (there are four of us in our family). So we called the relatives that we we going to go and visit and they came down to get us. To make a REALLY long story short - we waited for the wrecker for 3 hours and yesterday we found out it was the transmission on the van and it is going to cost us.

The thing is this though: God is faithful. He will provide and although the past few days I have been struggling with trusting all of this in His hands. But it is amazing because not only will He take care of us but last night He just gave me such a peace about everything through His word. I will put the verses up here when I get to the hotel. Here are the verses:

Psalms 112:7 He will have no fear of bad news, his heart is steadfast trusting in the Lord.

Proverbs 29:25 Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe.

Psalms 56:3-4 When I am afraid I will trust in you. In God whose word I praise, in God I trust, I will not be afraid. What can mortal man do to me?

Today we are going to Orlando to stay at the Gaylord Palms for my sister's acting conference. This is such a big opportunity for her and I am super excited for her. This is her calling and I am hoping that she does well and that God blesses her through this. Prayers are welcomed!

So when it rains it pours, but friends are the umbrellas in life's storms. Ultimately we are children of the maker of the universe and he will protect us. :)